Having a healthy happy baby starts with a healthy happy mom. Sometimes, it seems we must sacrifice one to have the other. It requires a lot of time, energy, money, and Love to stay on top of our game as mothers.
But, in order to accomplish these things throughout the lives of our children and grandchildren (being a mom does not stop when our children are grown), we MUST tend to our own health and happiness to be physically and mentally ready to take care of our children at all times.
Some of us, as grandmothers, continue this “labor of love” through the next generation. We must continue to stay on top of our game twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. In my experience, it’s not always easy to balance the needs (and wants) of our children and our own needs (and wants).
We know that having balance between healthy babies and happy moms can be tricky to achieve. Babies have certain basic needs. Love being the strongest need starting from the day our babies are born.
But, of course, they can’t live on Love alone. They need food, clothing, furniture, attention, education, time spent building bonds, plus lots of sun and fresh air with play and exercise. The lists are endless.
Some of our children’s needs are free, but the majority of them are costly. We often find that we have to have a second income to meet all the needs of our children. For the single mom, this may mean working overtime as much as possible. Working overtime means sacrificing even more time for our children or ourselves.
As a mom, I’ve always said “As long as the kids are happy, I’m happy”. But, let’s face it, we need to find some “ME TIME”. It’s an absolute must to a woman’s physical and mental state of health. We must take time to take care of ourselves. How can we complete the daily tasks or have the emotional strength to be our children’s mentor, protector, care giver, and best friend if we are run down, depressed, or just plain tired.
They build their sense of self by what they see us do and by how we treat them. If we can’t take the time to keep ourselves happy and healthy (at least a bit of time) how can we have the energy or mind set to teach them to love and take care of themselves later in their journey with their own family.
There are some small adjustments that we can make in our every day lives to make it seem just a little easier. I know how much every mom HATES hearing this…but, think about how much you could get done if you woke up 30 minutes earlier in the morning. You would be surprised how much you can accomplish with just a little uninterrupted time before everyone gets up.
You could prepare meals in the crock-pot. There are a lot of great crock-pot recipes. Pinterest is a good place to look for some. Also, it’s great for the working mom to come home to an awesome dinner all ready for the family.
Shopping online is a great time saver. With Amazon Prime having 2 day shipping, you can probably get things sooner than you would if you waited until you have spare time to make it to the store! You can also order all of your groceries online and just pick them up on the way home.
Using the last 30 minutes after everyone is in bed can also help make things a little less stressful. It’s a good time to pick out your kids clothes for the next day. Lunches can be packed and ready to go, book bags and homework ready and by the door, etc. That way in the morning, it is stress free and no last minute searching for anything.
So, how do we conquer “all” in this war, this battle, to be the perfect “Supermom” while also tending to our own needs, our own wants? While making healthy babies and happy moms?
I could brainstorm and list lots of ways to try to do this and act like I’m a professional on the subject. Or, I could admit that, for each individual mother, the game plan is unique to that individual mother. Our families have unique needs for unique individuals.